Just a question for the guys about a situation?

[Bigmurph6]

If your wife knows that you have a job and it brings home money would she give you shit about doing that job?
I worked 80hrs a week for 4yrs straight and my wife did nothing but complaint that she never saw me or had time to spend with me but if I didn’t work those hrs then I wouldn’t have been able to pay the bills. So I dealt with it for 4yrs working 80hrs a week running a company that I didn’t own getting paid shit and making the owner tons of money.
When I took over there was 1 van and usually about 300-700 units a wk delivered.
I took over a whole region and fired everyone hired a new crew and 4 yrs later instead of 1 van and say 700 units max I had built the business to 3 permanent vans and 5000 units minimum. Then on really busy weeks they would have to send reinforcements of maybe 2-3 vans and put guys in hotels to cover all the business. I was killing myself.
I decided to tell the owner that he needed to pay me more or I would no longer run his entire region of his company and I wasn’t asking for 30,000 I just wanted 4$ extra an hour. They let me go.
No problem went and got another job but now the wife sees how much time I have to dedicate to ugmuscle.
Am I doing something wrong by making money working a regular job and working at ugmuscle. i worked at ugmuscle the whole time I was working 80hrs a week.
She doesn’t seem to mind the fact that now that I have a better paying job plus the little from ugmuscle that I have paid off my debt and now have savings.
But she always gives me shit I love my girl and I want to marry her and its supposed to be soon but im not going to marry someone who has completely changed and wants me to completely change.
She has been fine from the beginning with me using gear last week she said that she was never fine with it I can show you multiple posts where she knows and is happy I use gear to look good.
She has completely lost her mind I believe because when I was in debt she could control everything I did money wise now I have savings and investments and she knows that I can leave if I want and go get my own place.
This isn’t what I want though and I don’t know how many times I can tell her this I binned all my surplus gear everything gone except for what I plan on using in my next cycle.
I thought that would make her happy I take her out shopping and to dinner. I picked up my phone one time to answer a message and she went crazy.
Do I just leave for a week and then come back?
Do I just stay and deal with the constant barrage?

I just don’t know just me getting my feelings out rather than doing something bad.
There is no answer.
Thanks
Banned

 

[John]

I don’t even know what to say to that buddy, I haven’t been in that situation so I will offer no advice, but to do what you feel is best for you and how you want to live to be happy.

 

[Ironside]

My brother…

She just wants some uninterrupted time with you. At this point, anything she feels that will get in the way and interrupt the time you have together is bad. Doesn’t matter if its work, the forum, the gear, working out, etc.

My wife told me multiple times in the beginning of our relationship that she always felt alone. That she didn’t know why we were even together because even when I was around, it was like I wasn’t even there. Our situation may have been slightly different because I was in the military at the time and dealing with my own demons but the thought process your girl has now was the same as mine during that time.

Money is a means to pay the Bill’s bro. That’s literally it. It should never be a driving factor, it should never be a point of argument. Moving beyond that, if you want to marry this woman, she has to become your center. All she wants is to know that she’s important to you and that everything else comes second. She should be your best friend, your wife, your lover and your soul. The message you just got can wait until after dinner. The post update that came through can wait until after the movie. The time you spend in bed, you should spend without ever picking up your phone. If you start thinking this was, she will pull a 180 and be right back to the same woman you had before. She just wants to know she still matters and saying it while you half ass listen to her while typing on your phone isn’t going to cut it.

I’m no pussy whipped bitch bro. I run my house like its 1955 and militant but I know how to treat my best friend. 14 years total. 13 years married next month. Never split up.

 

[paramexer]

whatever’s best for YOU. maybe it’s a temporary thing and she will cool off if you have “business hours” for ugm

 

[TBU]

Trust your gut. If it walks like a duck… you know the rest. I was hemmed up for 22 years with a woman I thought was my partner. But I always had this feeling in the back of my mind. But I thought nah. It’s nothing. Well it was something. And from day one I knew who she was. You can change the stripes on a zebra but… anyways. I’m still bitter about it. . Remember. It’s all about your gut instincts

 

[Bigmurph6]

Im not backing down I put my soul into building this site and everything that I have done im not ever going to give up working hard to make sure that every member is taken care of properly and that we only have the best sponsors. Then the sponsors we get in the future will always be the best.
I won’t let a woman stop me from doing one of the proudest things I’ve ever done in my life. Build this community with the great members we have and all the hard work that tren and semper put in also phd. I know that relationship is give and take but im not giving any ground on this situation at all.

 

[Bigmurph6]

I agree always listen to those little voices or feelings that you have because they are almost always right

 

[Ryan1007]

I think it is fine for her to want more time with you but I would also point out that, while in a perfect world you would spend every minute with her, in the real world you have to work because while money isn’t everything you can’t have much of a life without it. Unfortunately, for most of us hard work is necessary so we can do some of the things we love in life…that includes providing for the ones we love. Just reassure her she is the number one priority and ask her what you can do to show her that while still providing for you and her financially.

 

[Bigmurph6]

I completely agree brother I always tell her all I want is to live happily and comfortably with her.
I just bought her 3 coach purses because there was a great sale so no matter if I tell her through speech or through actions or by getting her gifts sadly it doesn’t change the issue.
She has calmed down a bit but I just got yelled at because I washed a pan and put it in the dish dryer and its coated side eas touching another pan.
I can buy her another 12$ pan I just can’t understand why she makes an issue out of the stupidest things. Lol

Thanks brother

 

[primo_build]

ultimately bro, you have to be happy first foremost and always…That’s the only way you’ll ever be truly able to love her an good for her.