Lessons I Learned From My Divorce

[Poppy]

The following is just my experience and what I did wrong/right in my opinion and in retrospect.

1. Don’t talk smack about the childs mother. Probably best not to talk ugly about her to anyone outside of your VERY close friends.
2. There will people coming out of the woodwork that wouldn’t give you the time a day before, that’ll want to be “buddies” so they can get the dirty gossip.
3. You’re not just divorcing her…you’re divorcing her and all of her bitch girl friends whispering in her ear about what a “sorry sob” you are…
4. There WILL be double agents. Be very careful on who you talk to.
5. The woman you meet in divorce court will not be your true love you honeymooned with.
6. There will be her girl friends showing up at your door to sleep with you. Those will be the ones that never cared for her.
7. Keep a cool head…it’ll be extremely easy to do something silly that could change your life (for the worse) forever.
8. Living well is the best revenge.
9. I found that “no emotion” towards your ex is about the best response. Mine called me crying wanting to apologize for hurting me…I told her “I nothing you”… “I don’t hate, like or love you”… “you never existed in my life”…”I’ve wiped you out of my head”.

I will post more as they come to me…

 

[Aude_Aliquid_Dignu]

#9 (disconfirmation) is wildly effective but it’s more in the attitude then the words. The not knowing for the other person is extremely difficult b/c they want to know you are feeling the same as them.

#8 FACT

 

[johnjuanb1]

 

[Aude_Aliquid_Dignu]

“you can un-follow me, but you can’t un-swallow me.”

 

[Dirtnasty]

I’m stealing this

 

[BBSQ5]

Oh, how they hate that you’ve moved on in life and not miserable pining away for them still.

Divorce is toxic and attracts toxic people. Walk away with your head held high and know that you are a good person and life will now be better!

 

[hercules_mcfadden]

I can honestly say both of my divorces felt like Christmas for a 7 year old boy when they were done. Like taking a backpack off after a long hike. Pure relief.

 

[Poppy]

It was several months after my ex walked out and I bumped into one of her friends and her husband. She was “oh you look great”… I did as a matter of fact… I told her my secret was losing approximately 200 pounds of ugly fat… her husband started laughing right away because he got it…it took her about 5 seconds to process what i said and stormed off. Blahahaha

 

[johnjuanb1]

Hahaha that’s beautiful!

 

[Stretch22]

I’ve been think about going on this diet soon too if you catch my drift

 

[Poppy]

It’s ugly business my friend

 

[TBU]

Great advice right there. 9 sometimes is the hardest to deal with. But to let go completely takes time. What I mean by that is, the amount of good times are there forever. Going through deployments, being one of the things that kept you going and looking forward to returning. But as they say, a thousand atta’ boys can be wiped out by one oh shit. And her oh shit moment broke my heart. But that’s the past. Now, I’m living better than I did before. My ex was a taker. My wife now? Actually gives a shit on how I’m doing and loves me for being us. Not just for her sake.

 

[Poppy]

My wife now? Actually gives a shit on how I’m doing and loves me for being us. Not just for her sake

Perfect

I need to compile a list of your stuff. “The book of TBU 3:11”

 

[Poppy]

Everyone…. @TBU has brought up a good point. There are times when I reminisce about the good times. There are always some good times regardless of the disastrous outcome.

 

[JLee]

Divorce is nasty business. Almost everything that @Poppy said happened to me. My kids even tried baiting for dirt on there mom. I think a big mistake people make is trying to jump right back into another relationship. It sucks being alone but at the same time you don’t want to hook up with some skank. For a fling is one thing but not for anything serious if that makes sense. Be patient and be more selective

 

[Duf24]

My exwife is telling my child lies and trying to ruin that relationship. I just try my best to be the best dad i can and use all my legal means to protect my kid. Takes a ton of money.
All the advice above is gold. You guys are great.

 

[hercules_mcfadden]

Very nasty. Divorce is a business, too. Crooked, nasty shit. Divorce attorneys are mostly dirtbag pieces of shit.

 

[Poppy]

Divorce attorneys are mostly dirtbag pieces of shit.

Truth