Sorry bro. Hope your wife and family get thru holidays well. Good your wife has those recipes! Those pass downs are always good.
I learned from trial and error one year back home. Instead of getting one really big bird, I bought 5 small birds and cooked them differently. Invited some friends from the gym over to see what people liked. A few weeks later did it again. Got the spices down right and amount of oranges, bacon and butter mixed.
I love cooking and always did this when grilling. Best way to learn is from others reactions. I would purposely make something in the mix that tasted like shit to get honest reactions. If they said everything tastes good Id call them out and tell them to quit lying lol. That’s how I got my avocado burger down pat an using buttered grilled croissants instead of buns.