I don’t know how it is in your state here the laws are set domestic call they have to take someone to jail it not discretionary neither is sentencing. Here is deal don’t waste your time focusing on the things that can’t be controlled can’t control ex, or judge, ect but you can control what happens from here. Is their anything court ordered to do to get all that dropped or done with it can’t be forever focus on that, next focus on schedule it’s sounds like it’s going to be tough but there has to be some kind of rules find out, and use them to your advantage to find a loop hole to where you are not behind the eight ball as bad on living quarters. One thing I have done with my boy since day one is make sure I talk to him something my father never did with me. Never assume anything, ask. It may be that he loves you he did what he did. Ex wife’s are ex wife’s nothing more can be said there you have to understand one thing brother and it’s the hardest thing I promise You are in control of You not them not the judge not alcohol You and you always have a choice may not be what you want to choose but it’s still a choice and the only one that makes it is you. That’s where you start you have all the control there. Nothing is permanent weather the storm.