Fucking Divorce Sucks

[JLee]

In the Great Welfare State of Massachusetts. Half of everything including SS is where you start. If a woman is found to be in a disadvantage she can get more. Judges discretion. Child support goes until 23 as long as the child is not working full time and is taking some classes. Alimony starts when child support ends. Mine gets 10 years of alimony for 14 years of marriage. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been separated for either. Even with separate accounts you still split $. You also have to maintain health insurance on your spouse until she gets her own or remarries. Life insurance policy is also required until child support obligation has ended.

 

[Bigmurph6]

I can only imagine it kills me to fight with my wife because I get so aggregated and love her so much.
Especially if you still love your wife this is definitely not an easy thing I come from the perspective of my parents divorce and it was nasty. My father truly still has nothing and my mother lives very nice.
If there’s a chance to save the relationship I would go that route. Im not sure exactly what caused it but the last year and a half have been brutal on relationships so possibly with covid hopefully wrapping up maybe some things can get better?

 

[Bigmurph6]

Wtf that’s crazy

 

[herrubermensch]

Sounds familiar.

 

[DarthSocrates]

I doubt it can be saved. She is pretty gung ho on the divorce. Almost giddy.

 

[Bigmurph6]

That’s horrible whats her reason im guessing there’s another man hire a private investigator so when you go to court you can show she was un faithful and broke her vows.

 

[Poppy]

Just some friendly advice.

Keep in mind you’re not dealing with just her…it’s her and her girlfriends chirping in her ear.

Beware of double agents. My ex had girl friends that wouldn’t give me the time of day until she walked then they would call all concerned.

 

[Itkis]

Hang in there. I’ve been in some break ups in my time. Some that I couldn’t even fathom. But in the end, everything happens for a reason. Yeah I know. What a fucking cliche thing to say, but it’s true. It won’t be tomorrow. Not next week. Maybe not even next year. But there will be a point where you realize why it happened and you will be relieved. And happier for it

 

[Rusty]

If a woman just decided one day she wants to be “free” and go have fun why wouldn’t she. She has a mid life crisis and wonders what could be What would stop her if she knows her husband is paying for the amusement park ticket. All this shit needs to end. This isn’t the 50s. Women want to be treated equally and they are in almost every aspect of our culture except the court room. They wonder why divorce rates are so high. They can have their cake and eat it too.

 

[JLee]

I agree. Paid vacation lol. Seriously though, I understand the need for child support but I don’t understand alimony? If I was a Rockafeller I can see having to maintain your extravagant ways but for the average guy it can be rough. I mean if she can work why does she need alimony?

 

[Rusty]

Agreed. We pay all the bills while someone else gets the “prize”.

 

[Destro2117]

Yeah all the allegations were deemed to be unfounded.

 

[Duf24]

Jlee, thats awesome to know about massachusetts. Glad im doing it here where i am at, than wait till im there. But its looking like im still going to the cleaners.

 

[herrubermensch]

I started paying alimony over 14 years ago and am still doing so. The aggregate amount I have paid is staggering.

 

[Poppy]

Is there an end other than death?

 

[herrubermensch]

Remarriage, death, inheritance or a change in my economic circumstances not resulting from my own fault (e.g., retirement). I gave up the farm to get it done.

 

[JLee]

That sucks. In MA, it’s like years in a union. You get X amount of time per year of marriage. As far as dollar amount it’s basically the same as child support. No more then 28% before taxes. I know for 14 years of marriage it’s almost 10 years of alimony. On the bright side it can run concurrent with child support.

 

[Poppy]

Funny story kind of… my best buddy separated and divorced his wife of 30 years recently. He too gave up the farm. I’m friends with his wife also just because she was his wife. I always thought she was a B.

I was chatting with one of her friends a while back in the store and I knew whatever I said to her would get back to my buddies ex.

I told her “W must of been the biggest B in the world to live with…S is paying a fortune to get rid of her”. Hahaha

 

[Bigmurph6]

That’s great brother I can’t imagine having to go through it bless you honestly

 

[Bigmurph6]

This is completely crazy and what I was saying needs to really change it just isn’t right