Fucking Divorce Sucks
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That’s sucks bro. My ex let me go after 15 years. We had 4 kids together including a disabled child. It got ugly quick. Our culture makes it so easy for women to get divorced. Like what @Dirtnasty was saying. But just like @Poppy says living well is the best revenge. My ex would ask my friends how I was doing and they would tell her good. Then they all said her face got sour. Lol. Best of luck hope for a reconciliation for you brother.
That sucks @DarthSocrates but I’m sure you will make the best of it.
Bigmurph6
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Brother im sorry about this but get out there and get yourself a mens only divorce attorney and fight for the kids because I have seen divorces go badly for men because the laws were written after ww2 when one man supported a house of 9 kids and a wife on one salary.
Its complete bullshit
Its not like that anymore at all and women shouldn’t get to live off there ex husband for the rest of their lives. They should have to get jobs and work its all about equality now right? Smh
Im really sorry brother you look great in your pic that’s definitely a positive but definitely spend all your money on attorneys before you give it to her you might feel different but that’s my outlook on divorce.
Bless you brother
Its complete bullshit
Its not like that anymore at all and women shouldn’t get to live off there ex husband for the rest of their lives. They should have to get jobs and work its all about equality now right? Smh
Im really sorry brother you look great in your pic that’s definitely a positive but definitely spend all your money on attorneys before you give it to her you might feel different but that’s my outlook on divorce.
Bless you brother
Sorry to hear that bud. I can’t imagine how tough it must be. So here’s my 2 cents on the “good” here. Wife decided to leave you? Good! More time to devote to bettering your self . I’m guessing things have been on a downturn for sometime correct? So for one reason or another she has stopped loving you for the person you are. Now you have the opportunity to find a women that does love you for who you are. Who will give all her love and attention to you and appreciate what you bring to the table. You have 17 years of experience now going into a new relationship. Experience you don’t have before. Learn from mistakes that were made and improve for this next relationship. Also with all these dating sites I think it’s actually easier to find a good women now a days. That being said guys I know that are single all say only use the sides you have to pay for, not the tinder amd grinder apps. People that are willing to spend some money are really looking to find a relationship.
Good luck bud. Keep killing it in the gym
Good luck bud. Keep killing it in the gym
We all have our moments. There are definitely times when I get in my own head about shit and takes me a min to figure it out. Always try to stop, settle down, evaluate what’s going on then determine can I control this, or is it out of my control. Then you can figure out how to deal with whatever it is. Example, I’ve had members of my gym sort of rebel against me. At first I took it very personal. Some of them I’ve known for years. Mentored them, been there when they were in shitty relationships etc. so after the initial FU moment I calm down and think about it rational, could I have done anything different to keep them? Did I somehow wrong them and not own it? If the answer is no, then “good”. You want to leave the gym? Good I’ll find née memebrs that are more loyal and hard working.
Bigmurph6
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So I wasn’t going to post because I didn’t want to say it where everyone could read but I am open about my metal illness.
What you said above isn’t possible for me to actually do the way my brain works it goes into what they call hyperawareness which just means your ptsd kicks in many here have ptsd and understand what happens when it turns on this isn’t even the problem its just something that happens.
The real issue is I try to stop but can’t my mind and thoughts have already took off so it takes me longer to get to the steps of evaluation but its honestly happening already just not in a normal way before I even get to that point because my evaluation of example situation is hyper aware and I’m taking in way more information than my mind can figure out or then is even needed and then the anxiety of not being able to control the situation kicks in because of this all taking place even though it can be the smallest thing and it can be completely crippling and I tend not to be one who cries not saying I never have but I tend to be an idiot and get introuble.
Thankfully im stable on medication and doing well but when shit blows up so do I unfortunately and I have been truly working on it for 10yrs+ now actually but I still have my moments that are completely uncontrollable and its embarrassing.
Im 45 and I destroyed a scale because it didn’t say the weight I wanted to see I took out meaning completely destroyed a light and a door not very long ago and this is stable? I still have alot of work left even though I have worked hard for along time I will continue to work on bettering myself until the day I die.
What you said above isn’t possible for me to actually do the way my brain works it goes into what they call hyperawareness which just means your ptsd kicks in many here have ptsd and understand what happens when it turns on this isn’t even the problem its just something that happens.
The real issue is I try to stop but can’t my mind and thoughts have already took off so it takes me longer to get to the steps of evaluation but its honestly happening already just not in a normal way before I even get to that point because my evaluation of example situation is hyper aware and I’m taking in way more information than my mind can figure out or then is even needed and then the anxiety of not being able to control the situation kicks in because of this all taking place even though it can be the smallest thing and it can be completely crippling and I tend not to be one who cries not saying I never have but I tend to be an idiot and get introuble.
Thankfully im stable on medication and doing well but when shit blows up so do I unfortunately and I have been truly working on it for 10yrs+ now actually but I still have my moments that are completely uncontrollable and its embarrassing.
Im 45 and I destroyed a scale because it didn’t say the weight I wanted to see I took out meaning completely destroyed a light and a door not very long ago and this is stable? I still have alot of work left even though I have worked hard for along time I will continue to work on bettering myself until the day I die.
This is exactly what the doctor would say to do it sometimes just isn’t in the cards for me but like I said above I work on making this better and in the 10yrs it definitely has gotten much better.Kad1 said:
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Destro2117
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Love you Murph
Nice to know I’m not alone
Day at a time fellas, 1 sec at a time.
I was falsely accused of inappropriately touching our then 4 year old daughter at the time during my divorce. That was 3 year’s ago and it’s still touch and go. No one’s exempt from life’s unfair dick stompings. What’s the worst that happens during your divorce, you gonna stop breathing and die? You have my sympathy.
Nice to know I’m not alone
Day at a time fellas, 1 sec at a time.
I was falsely accused of inappropriately touching our then 4 year old daughter at the time during my divorce. That was 3 year’s ago and it’s still touch and go. No one’s exempt from life’s unfair dick stompings. What’s the worst that happens during your divorce, you gonna stop breathing and die? You have my sympathy.
I know exactly what you are talking about Murph. Remember I do suffer from PTSD and every situation is different for sure. I’ve had absolute fits of rage over literally nothing. I know the feeling when you can’t get the thoughts to stop , 100% I k ow. I like most am a work in progress. I’ve gotten much better over the past year especially in letting go of what I can’t control, that’s all I’m saying. Like everything in life, one step at a time. I’ve had plenty of dark days, days when I’m training in the dark with no music and just crying. Crying over things that I could do nothing about. Trying to save a dying friend , doing CPR, drilling into his tibia to get meds in because he had no good views because he was bleeding out everywhere. We worked on him till doc said he’s gone. Rationally I k ow there was nothing I could have done to save him but doesn’t make it any easier. So I try and look back and remind my self just that, I did everything possible amd it’s not my fault. So back to my point of evaluate, make adjustments and move on. Easier said than done, just work on it and you will get it. I promise you that. Fuck all these docs, you have it in you to doit I have no doubt.
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